Truly Balanced: The Midlife Insider

Last week. I received a message from a former patient. I was sitting at my desk between appointments, when the notification popped up. We had not spoken in a while. I opened it and read her words. “It’s too expensive for me right now.” And she could find support cheaper. The old me would have felt a rush of guilt. Tight chest. Racing thoughts. The urge to explain myself or immediately offer a discount. This time, something different happened. I thanked her for telling me. I w

Most people think doctors are experts on menopause. That’s a lie. Even physicians don’t have answers. You can’t sleep. You’re gaining weight. You forget things that used to be second nature. You don’t feel like yourself anymore. And they say you’re fine. You nod and say “okay.” You go back for help. They run the same labs. They give the same answer. And you start to think maybe it is in your head. But it’s not. I spoke with another doctor recently. Her own physician missed he

Ladies, if you wake at 3 a.m. sweaty and wide awake, you are not alone. Read this and you’ll see exactly why your nights are awful. And the first small shift to change it. I talk with high-performing women every week. They are holding families together, leading teams, and still dragging through the day. It is not just tired. It is snappy with your kids. It is sharp with your spouse. It is a mistake at work you would not normally make. Hormones are part of it, but here are 5 c

Let’s talk about the lies that keep too many women struggling in silence. I hear them every week from high-performing women. CEOs, physicians, executives, accountants. I’ve even said some myself. But they are costing you your peace, your energy, and your joy. Here they are 1️⃣ “This is just aging.” No, it’s not. It's a hormone imbalance. You are not supposed to feel exhausted, foggy, or lifeless. That is not aging. That’s your body saying something is wrong. 2️⃣ “Everyone fee

Doctors miss menopause all the time. Not because they don’t care. But because the system isn’t built for you. Here’s why: No standard test. Hormones that fluctuate daily. Symptoms that mimic depression, thyroid problems, or “just aging.” Fatigue? You’re told it’s stress. Mood changes? You’re offered antidepressants. Joint pain? You’re told it’s just “getting older.” Meanwhile, you’re stuck in the middle of perimenopause. Foggy. Exhausted. Gaining weight. Feeling like your bod

Over the last few weeks, I’ve had the same conversation over and over. Different cities. Different women. Different stages of life. But the same story. “I’m gaining weight, and I haven’t changed anything.” “My doctor says I’m fine… but I don’t feel fine.” “I wake up sweating in the middle of the night.” “My brain is foggy.” “I’m exhausted.” Listen. This isn’t medical advice. But I need to say this: You’re not too young. You’re not imagining it. And your doctor may not even un

What if your body isn’t the problem? You’ve been eating clean. Moving your body. Trying to do all the right things. But suddenly your clothes don’t fit. You’re waking up at 3am for no reason. You’re snapping at your partner for asking what’s for dinner. And you’re feeling warm when no one else is. ALL the time. You tell yourself to push through. It’s probably just stress, right? From the job.  The kids.  Life. But deep down, you know something is shifting. And you’re right. I

I didn’t plan to talk about hormones this weekend. But by the end of the conference, five women had pulled me aside. But somehow. Every conversation led there. Friday night, I was eating a salad and chatting with a woman I’d just met. She was in her mid-50s.  Retired and now an entrepreneur And tired. We started talking about menopause. She leaned in and said. “Sister, this stuff is real.” She wasn’t talking about a few hot flashes. How quickly her body had changed on her. Th